The Creative Head

Hi, I'm Rongen. Welcome to my blog - with the purpose to share my skills and to help newbie designers pursue on their first step. I always admire great ideas, designs and techniques of other creatives around the world. Every design and art masterpieces are my inspiration. I hope that this could also bring inspiration or somehow education to others with the same passion and bring new clients too... along the way, friendship. Thank you for visiting my blog and my other websites.

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July 18, 2010

Why disciplining our children can do more harm than good

Should we expect our children to behave? NO.
Should we discipline our children? NO.
So therefore, we should simply ignore them when they are misbehaving. Right? NO.

We should GUIDE our children instead of disciplined them. By GUIDANCE, they will learn how to do things right and not how to avoid bad things to happen.

Disciplining is merely giving a child a terms and conditions that he needs to forcefully follow every single day.  
We (parents) want our kids to stick to their minds our RULES and that they should live with it. If they do not follow, they'll be punished. 
This will never teach children to decide on their own when they grow up.
And ignoring our children will also not teach them a lesson. Children are asking us to talk to them, to be with them and to understand them.
Children have so many rights that many parents today have never wanted to learn about.  

Being a parent, I should not stop from just being a dad. I have so many things to learn and many things to make up.  
Everyday is a new exploration. A life in which I try to live by example, 
so that when the time comes they are ready to start their own families, I can say this to them; 
"You're done being my son, but I am not done being your father."

How about praising them or giving them rewards when they do things that pleased us or made us proud?
More about this soon.

* This Illustration is my quick rendition of Dr. Louise Porter's book "Children are people too" and inspired by Peter MacMullin's art.

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